Intercourse Anorgasmia

Anorgasmia is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation. The lack of orgasms distresses you or interferes with your relationship with your partner.

It is not an uncommon situation that a female cannot achieve orgasm during intercourse, although can when masturbating or during oral sex. Sometimes, there is a psychological reason such as when guilt, shame or fear of pregnancy is present. Psychosexual issues means: sexual matters related to the mind. However it might not be a mental issue that she can not orgasm via intercourse with her partner, it may simply be that she is not receiving enough contact and/or pressure on her pubis area. When this is the case it can be because:

1. Her partner's penis is too long to achieve a full penetration.

2. His body shape simply does not allow enough contact.

3. She needs more 'thrust'.

4. He suffers penetration anxiety.

5. He does not move at a speed she likes.

6. He ejaculates too quickly though is not premature.

There are others but these are the most likely. We will look at each situation separately.

1. When this issue is present the option exists for HER to orgasm first a method that the both of you like. Then he could orgasm via penetration. Most men lose interest after ejaculation and will not likely want to take care of her physical needs afterwards, so best to take care of her first.

2. The male can experiment with moving his body into different positions, always maintaining pubic contact. He might find that withdrawing slightly and making belly/pubis contact works well or perhaps he needs to move upwards a little. Communicate and try new positions to find the best contact method.

3. Is he being to gentle? While in the missionary position, have him thrust more as to push her buttocks further into the bed. She will need to tell him let him know what she wants and reward him to let him know he is doing a good job. If he is resistant to thrusting more - it may be a Psychosexual issue that some therapy/counselling could help with.

4. This problem is best to be resolved by speaking to a professional that are familiar with this issue and have the skills to resolve it.

5. Communication is needed so both the female and the male find something that works for each of them.

6. The easiest solution to this issue is to have HER be aroused almost to the point of orgasm just prior to penetration. Not the most satisfying solution if the desire is to have sustained intercourse.