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The whole process of sexual reproduction is odd - not just because of the sheer power of its instinctive drive but also because it is something of a puzzle as to why it exists at all. Many animal species are what is sometimes referred to as 'intersex' - that is, they are both sexes at the same time - and there are around 4000 species which are all female and reproduce without any form of sexual activity. Some species change sex apparently voluntarily, not just once but several times, and if you add to this the fact that homosexual behaviour occurs in more than 450 different species, you can begin to appreciate that our 'style' of sexual coupling is actually far from 'normal'. Not only that, life on earth existed for three billion years before the advent of sexual reproduction, some three hundred million years ago, so it is hard to explain why and how sexuality came into being.

Given the manner in which a new human animal arrives in the world, and the fact that males have nipples and a modified clitoris, it is likely that humankind have evolved from an all female species. Many people believe that the clitoris is an 'atrophied penis' but this is probably an idea originally mooted by a male; it is known to be a similar organ in many ways and even functions in a similar erectile manner. The fact is, though, that the male has no organs which could ever have produced offspring and therefore it is far more likely that the clitoris developed into the penis.

Of course, that idea depends heavily upon the notion that a clitoris ever existed in those early pre-human ancestors; it is entirely possible, though, that neither penis nor clitoris existed in those early creatures and both have evolved separately. Some strength is given to this argument if you consider the fact that since the clitoris appears to exist solely to contribute to sexual pleasure it would not have been needed when reproduction was asexual.

We are not unique in the enjoyment of sexual activity - there are many animals that appear to copulate purely for pleasure and many that masturbate. What sets the human animal apart, however, is a highly developed emotional centre; three of those emotions, equal second in power only to fear, give rise to most human neuroses and especially so within the areas of relationships and sexuality. Those three 'villains' are Shame, Guilt and Embarrassment and they are more often the cause of human sexual difficulties than anything else.

If you experience any feelings of discomfort when addressing sexual situations - awkwardness, say, or anxiety of any sort - then it's odds-on that you are responding to one or more of those three responses.

The following might help:

• Every healthy human being who ever lived thought about sex and had strong sexual desires

• Sex is the second most powerful instinct known to man and responsible for our very existence. It is supposed to get itself into your mind in the way that it does!

• If sex was 'supposed' to be restrained/controlled, most of us wouldn't be here!

• If you want to do something, you can guarantee that millions of others do, too.

• Sex is part of everybody's life. Even if they choose to be celibate, they are still reacting to sexuality

• Everybody thinks 'filthy' thoughts, even those who claim they don't - otherwise how would they know what they are?

• You don't choose your feelings, only what you do with them.

• Whatever you find yourself thinking and desiring is a natural response for you and it is completely irrelevant what others think or say they think or don't think

• When others suggest that they are especially 'clean living' and responsible, remember that they keep their secrets as well-hidden as you do yours!

• Those people who say: "There are more important things in life than sex," would not be here to say that if they hadn't been born... as a result of sex.

This article is the intellectual property of Terence Watts
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