Confidential Help for Psychosexual Dysfunction—Without the Need to Share Your Entire Sexual History

You don’t have to talk through every intimate detail of your past to find relief.

At Flourish Hypnosis, I help heterosexual men and women overcome psychosexual challenges in a safe, private, and judgment-free environment—using powerful subconscious tools that create real, lasting change.

What Is Psychosexual Dysfunction?

The term “psychosexual” refers to sexual difficulties that stem from the mind and emotional experience, rather than a physical issue alone. These challenges can affect self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being—but they can be successfully resolved.

I work effectively with:

• Erectile Dysfunction

• Vaginismus

• Anorgasmia (inability to orgasm)

• Premature Ejaculation

• Pain during intercourse (Dyspareunia)

• Loss of Libido or Sexual Drive

• Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

• Penetration Anxiety

• Sexual Aversion

• Masturbation Complex or Jealousy

• Sexual Incompatibility

• Secondary Sexual Dysfunction

• Shame, guilt, or fear around sex

• General sexual confidence issues or confusion

How I Work with Clients

You can choose one of two options:

• Option 1: A structured 4-session program (sessions are 75–90 minutes, spaced 1 week apart)

• Option 2: A single, 2-hour session for focused work

Before beginning, I recommend clients consult with a medical doctor to rule out any physical causes and receive clearance for psychosexual hypnotherapy.

Your Intake Assessment

In our first session, you’ll:

• Get clear on what the problem actually is—and what success looks like

• Identify any underlying emotions that may be influencing the issue

• Explore any related blocks or unresolved areas that need to be addressed first

• Understand what's been preventing you from overcoming this on your own

The Program: A Mind-Body Approach to Reclaiming Sexual Well-being

This holistic program is customized to your experience, and may include:

Step 1: Education

Understanding how your brain and body respond to past experiences is key to moving forward.

Step 2: Emotional Release

Let go of shame, guilt, fear, and rejection—without needing to relive or talk through painful memories.

Step 3: Hypnotherapy for Healing

Address past trauma, sexual memories, and emotional wounds using powerful subconscious techniques.

Step 4: Normalize

Learn what healthy sexual function looks like so you can stop comparing yourself and start accepting yourself.

Step 5: Communicate & Connect

Unblock your ability to express your desires and boundaries—confidently and clearly.

Step 6: Reclaim Joy & Confidence

Give yourself permission to enjoy your body and sexuality—on your terms.

This Program Will Help You:

• Rewire your subconscious sexual “programs” using neuroscience and hypnosis

• Let go of emotional triggers like shame, embarrassment, and past relationship pain

• Heal from trauma and unresolved experiences impacting sexual function

• Clarify what you want—and learn how to ask for it

• Strengthen your boundaries and reclaim sexual autonomy

• Overcome anxiety, avoidant behavior, or negative self-talk around intimacy

• Step into sexual confidence and self-acceptance

🌿 You Deserve to Feel Safe, Free, and Empowered in Your Sexuality

Sexual dysfunction doesn’t have to define you.
With the right support, you can reconnect with your body, rebuild your confidence, and enjoy fulfilling intimacy again.

👉 Book your free confidential consultation here
Let’s talk about how this work can support you—without judgment, shame, or pressure.

ARTICLES ON SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION

SEXUAL INTIMACY

Intimacy involves feelings of emotional closeness and connectedness with another person. 

There are four types of intimacy: emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical.

Intimacy usually means mutual vulnerability, openness, and sharing. It is often present in close, loving relationships such as marriages and friendships. The term is also sometimes used to refer to sexual interactions, but intimacy does not have to be sexual

The Five Levels of Intimacy

Psychologists have identified 5 levels of emotional intimacy we all move through as we get to know someone.

Level One: Safe Communication

Level one is the lowest level of communication. We call it safe because it involves the exchange of facts and information. There are no feelings, opinions or personal vulnerability involved, and therefore no risk of rejection.

This is the kind of interaction we have with people we don’t know well such as the grocery store clerk who we chitchat with. People communicating at this level share minimal intimacy.

Level Two: Sharing Others’ Opinions and Beliefs

At level two we start sharing other people’s thoughts, beliefs and opinions. We say things like, “My friends say…” or “One of my favorite actors said…” Such statements test the other person’s reaction to what we’re sharing without offering our own opinions.

This is slightly more vulnerable than level one, but because we’re not sharing our own opinions we can distance ourselves from the opinion, in case we feel threatened by criticism or rejection.

Level Three: Personal Opinions and Beliefs

We start taking small risks at this level because we begin to share our own thoughts, opinions and beliefs. But like the level one and level two, if we begin feeling too vulnerable, we can switch our opinions or change our mind in order to avoid conflict or pain.

Level Four: My Feelings and Experiences

Sharing feelings and experiences is the next level of vulnerability and intimacy. At this level we talk about our joys, pain, and failures; our mistakes in the past, our dreams, and our goals.

This level is more vulnerable because we are sharing our feelings, details of our past or current experiences/situations.

If we sense that we may be rejected or criticized, all we can do is try to convince others that we’re no longer impacted by our past.

Level Five: My Needs, Emotions and Desires

Level five is the highest level of intimacy. It is the level that requires the greatest amount of trust. If I can’t trust that you won’t reject me, I’ll never be able to share my true self with you. 

Unlike the other levels, there is no escape at this level. You believe that once you let someone see who you really are, once you let them know how you really feel, then you can no longer convince them otherwise.

Communicating at this level means we offer someone the most vulnerable part of ourselves. Our greatest fear is that someone could use that against us later.

When we share things like, “I’m hurt when you don’t spend time with me,” I don’t feel any desire for sex” “I am having a problem getting an erection” or “I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you” we’re sharing not only our hurts, worries, fears but also our desires and needs.

This is the level where we let others see our emotional reaction to things.

True Intimacy

It’s important to understand that true intimacy in a relationship happens over time…not in a day, week or even a month. Think of your best friend…how long did it take before you felt at the highest level of intimacy with them, where you were able to trust them completely, or share your deepest self?

It’s the same in romantic relationships…true intimacy develops over time.

But another important element is needed for true intimacy…both people in the relationship need to move through the levels together.

If I’m sharing at level four with someone (feelings and experiences) but my partner is sharing at level three (opinions and beliefs) we’re not experiencing true intimacy.

I may feel closer because I’m sharing at a higher level, but in reality what we have is a false sense of intimacy.  

In truth, intimacy is measured by the person with the lower level of vulnerability.

Sex…A False Sense of Intimacy

When you look at the five levels, I’m sure you’d agree that the fifth or highest level is the healthiest, safest and most intimate place to have sex.

When we feel loved unconditionally, and have the highest level of trust, we’ll be able to give ourselves completely to each other, increasing intimacy and the enjoyment of sex. 

We can have sex at the other levels, but without that same level of trust the vulnerability of sex may be associated with anxiety, fear and distrust.

As I’ve led women through healing, I’ve discovered that they have the hardest time with sex if they’re not at this highest level with their partner, and if they’ve been wounded by sex with others in lower levels of intimacy, whether through abuse or their own choices.

During sexual arousal and release men and women release an amazing hormone called oxytocin. Scientists call oxytocin the hormone of love, the superglue that creates strong relational bonds.

Releasing Oxytocin increases trust in a relationship, bonds people together, and causes intimacy. Oxytocin is also released in women when they give birth and when they breast feed their babies. 

When we have sex with someone before we have established a level 5 intimacy, we are creating a false sense of intimacy in our relationship. The sex makes us feel closer than we really are.

Emotional intimacy can get stalled at the level where we start having sex. 

Emotional intimacy REQUIRES being able to risk conflict in order to move to the next level.

Handling conflict in a healthy and safe way without being rejected is what allows us to build the trust needed to communicate at higher, more vulnerable levels.

But now that you are having sex, you feel close, and you won’t want to risk losing this person.

And so although we may occasionally move to higher levels, we’ll continue to fall back into that safe zone to communicate.

We may sense that there’s something missing, but then with sex, we’ll feel that surge of closeness again, making us feel all is well.

WHAT IS SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION?

Sexual dysfunction (or sexual malfunction or sexual disorder) is difficulty experienced by an individual or a couple during any stage of sexual activity, including physical pleasure, desire, preference, arousal or orgasm. 

Sexual issues can occur at any time in a persons’ life, can be caused by many things and can cause a great deal of heart ache and frustration.

IS IT NORMAL TO EXPERIENCE SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION?

Many people find talking about their sexual issues embarrassing but research shows that 40 percent of women and 30 percent of men report some degree of difficulty when it comes to sex, intimacy and or libido. Yes, it is normal to experience sexual dysfunction from time to time in your life, but it doesn’t have to stay a part of your life.

BUT FIRST

It is important that you first consult with your doctor to rule out any underlying medical cause for sexual dysfunctions. If the cause is deemed to be psychological then it is extremely likely my program can help you and your issues. The first session a long session, we need to go through an detailed intake process and still have time to do some Hypnotherapy. Expect your first session to be between 90 - 120 minutes.

WHAT ARE THE CLASSIFICATIONS OF SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION?

Sexual dysfunction generally is classified into four main categories

1) Desire disorders - lack of sexual desire or interest in sex

2) Arousal disorder - inability to become physically aroused or excited during sexual activity

3) Orgasm disorder - delay or absence of orgasm (climax) or premature ejaculation

4) Pain disorders - pain during intercourse

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OF SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION FOR MEN?

In men symptoms can include:

• Inability to achieve or maintain an erection (erectile dysfunction)

• Absent or delayed ejaculation despite sexual stimulation (retarded ejaculation)

• Inability to control the timing of ejaculation (early or premature ejaculation)

• Desensitized to their own sensuality and or body.

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OF SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION FOR WOMEN?

In women symptoms can include:

• Inability to achieve orgasm (Anorgasmia)

• Inadequate vaginal lubrication before and during intercourse

• Inability to relax the vaginal muscles enough to allow intercourse (Vaginismus)

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OF SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION IN MEN AND WOMEN?

Symptoms seen in men and women:

• Lack of interest in or desire for sex

• Inability to become aroused

• Pain with intercourse

Physical Causes

Many physical conditions can cause problems with sexual function. These conditions include:

• Diabetes

• Heart and vascular disease

• Neurological disorders

• Hormonal imbalances

Chronic diseases such as:

• Kidney or liver failure

• Alcoholism

• Drug abuse

Some medications, including some antidepressant drugs and blood pressure medications, can affect sexual function. Sexual Dysfunction can also be the result of surgery, physical trauma, dopamine desensitization and past abuse. Please have your doctor check for diabetes, testosterone deficiency, cardiovascular disease and or thyroid issues.

Psychological Causes

• Work-related stress

• Anxiety

• Sexual performance concerns

• Marital or relationship problems

• Depression

• Feelings of guilt, shame, rejection, abandonment

• Feeling of not being good enough

• Concerns about body image

• Unresolved sexual trauma

• Mixed emotions about who you are attracted to

• Poor self image

• Confidence Issues

• NOT feeling NORMAL (do you know what normal is?)

• Feeling pressured to preform

• Partner wants a baby but YOU don’t

• You want a baby but YOUR partner doesn’t